Galatians 1:10~I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant.
I am a people pleaser.
I don’t like to hurt anyones feelings.
I like to say things that lift others up and encourage them. This is an expression of love from me to others. I don’t lie, I tell the truth about the good I see in people. I love to see the way a persons entire demeanor can change just by a simple word of encouragement. It actually speaks life into them and they immediately feel more confident and reassured.
This can be a good thing when your addressing the good you see in others, but when you address the “hard stuff” it gives you the opposite result.
We are made to love others and sometimes “real love” is saying the things people don’t want to hear.
THAT IS HARD FOR ME!
When I say the uncomfortable, afterwards, I almost want to take it back!! I sometimes wished I hadn’t even said it!! It causes conflict and tension between myself and the person I’ve been honest with. Being a people pleaser, I don’t like tension. I like for others to like me and when they push back, it makes me feel attacked and I instantly become defensive.
Defensive is not the attitude I want to be known by. As a woman who wants to constantly walk in the love of my Father, sometimes this must include saying the hard stuff.
The stuff that others may not be pleased with.
The stuff that addresses their heart and soul.
The stuff that Jesus wants to say to them, IN LOVE, through me!!
The stuff that they may or may not receive at that time, but has planted a future seed.
The stuff that others see, but are too afraid or just don’t care enough to say.
Because I love Jesus, and am His servant, I must obey his voice and not question why He tells me to do or say something. Even if it doesn’t please others. Even if it makes me nervous, my goal is to please Him by obeying His voice and walking in His love.
Especially when its hard.
Father, I love you. I know that I am called according to your purpose. Sometimes your call isn’t comfortable. Help me to be confident in your commands and even when I don’t see a positive result, to trust in you that you are at work. As your servant, my greatest desire is to please you. Help me to keep my eyes on pleasing you and not pleasing others, so that Im capable of speaking your love in the uncomfortable. In Jesus name. Amen.